I have to comment on this story…
I don’t really care about the hiding his gender stuff. What strikes me is the complete hypocrisy. She says that she doesn’t want to impose or limit her son. Yet, she forces him to wear a girls’ blouse with his school uniform, and forbids what she considers “overly masculine” clothing. Is that not forcing her views (stereotypes) onto him?
If you truly want your child to grow up without any stereotypes then perhaps you should first remove your own expectations, and let him truly make the expressive choices; not just the ones you like. If he wants to wear camo, let him. Maybe he would prefer to express his masculinity more often.
Yes, he is your child (crazy lady) but it is HIS life, and you are limiting his potential by trying to “protect” him from stereotypes. If you truly want to avoid any male/female expressionism, you would only dress him in grey and not allow any designs, patterns, or “expressive” things. You would ban flowery clothing just as easily as you have banned camo clothing.
Am I the only one who sees what she is doing as wrong? I understand that she also expresses a dislike for extremely feminine dress-outfits on girls, but she glosses over the overtly feminine things she lets her own son wear (girls’ swimwear for instance) in the name of “neutrality.” She describes him playing with dolls, but doesn’t mention sports or toy cars.
Isn’t she inviting a gender identity crisis later on?
Now. I would be irresponsible to not point out the following…
- Kieran is the FATHER. Please do not respond like this is about some “lesbians parenting” thing, it’s not. I have seen more than a few comments on related articles, obviously written by skimmers, that Beck and Kieran are lesbians.
- Beck does say that she doesn’t force him to wear girly clothes, only that she doesn’t allow “overtly masculine” clothing.
- I completely agree with the quote below, so she’s not totally nuts… Just partly nuts.
“A friend of mine said the other day: ‘Molly lost her hair clip again,’ and I thought, well, if she’s got some prissy thing she’s got to take care of, and she gets told off if she loses it, then she has to be picky about it – and then she becomes a person who’s slightly prissy and picky. But you’ve made her like that!”
- Couple raise child as ‘gender neutral’ to avoid stereotyping – Telegraph (worldwright.wordpress.com)